“And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, (5) And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? (6) Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:4 - 6
One of the most important steps that a man and woman will do in life is to enter the bonds of wedlock. This is a bond with vows to one another promised before God, and therefore the importance of it is astronomical. First, marriage is a lifetime commitment promised before God to love and keep each other “until death do you apart”. God said when a man and woman enters these bonds “they are no more twain, but one flesh”. In marriage there is a moral and physical union, so that two people become virtually one being. The only real object that should keep two people from becoming husband and wife is their Christian status, a believer should never marry a non-believer, it’s not going to work because God said it would not. A true believer will never be able to become one with a non-believer because God said they would not. God calls it being unequally yoked together, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14 However, the more you can agree on before marriage the less concern of learning to agree on after marriage. True love between two people can fill a lot of holes in a relationship, but marriage truly takes two believers willing to boldly satisfy each other in Lord together. Just a caution and a warning here, also marring outside of your biblical faith is also dangerous, a husband and wife belong in church together. God and His word must be put front and center in a marriage, with both partners agreeing that the scripture will dictate the relationship. God said, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…” Eph. 5:23 But notice here without reservation God said “…as Christ is the head of the church…” Everything Christ is to His church husbands are to the wife. God also said, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church…” V. 25 Husbands need to understand this “tall order”, that we are to be to our wives as Christ is to the church, never treat your wife anyway that Christ would not treat His church. The love that a man is to have for His wife is the willingness to give his life for her. The roll of a husband is one of authority as the “head of the wife and family” but one of pure love as Christ loves His church. Here is the roll of the wife, “Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” The word “subject” means - to subordinate; reflexively to obey – or to live under submission to her husband. This is a relationship built under our relationship in God with Him being the Supreme authority by His word. Therefore, the subjection is not to be violated by disobeying God’s word. We always obey God over man! “We ought to obey God rather than men.” Act’s 5:29 Any man who abuses his wife is not worth the dirt on the ground, you cannot mistreat your wife and expect her to be obedient to you because you have violated the bonds of matrimony and the bond that God ordered. The only thing that will make a marriage work is to obey God and His word. God to church, learn what God desires of you as a couple and family. Grow in the teachings together, loving one another unconditionally as the Lord loves us. If we do this in our relationship, we will always be happy and satisfied, until death do us part. Cleave to one another, become one flesh, and do not allow anyone to interfere with what God has joined together. “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
